Learn to Affirm Your Children

As a divorced dad you may spend limited amounts of time with your kids, and you want to be as positive as possible. Sometimes you can get out of balance and start showering your kids with all types of praise for every little thing, often your kids here so much of this that it becomes like white noise. Your kids know that you are their father and just based on that fact you are going to have nice things to say to them the question is do they believe what you are saying. Instead of praising your kids try affirming them. Think of words that describe your child’s positive traits and acknowledge them verbally or in writing. Some of the qualities that your child may exhibit are: ambition, cheerfulness, consideration, dependability, kindness, neatness, sensitivity, or enthusiasm. Theses are just a few, I am sure that you can come up with more. When you affirm their behavior be specific, and let them know how you feel when they display these positive qualities. It may feel weird at first but once you see the positive effect that these words have on your children it will become very natural to use them often.